There is a distinction between a confident submissive man who knows what he wants and puts effort and energy into achieving those goals versus a fickle submissive man who has much uncertainty in his life and is unsure of himself of his desires.

It is alright to be inexperienced or new to being with men. What helps is knowing what you want to try and experience and who you want to have this journey with. Some men will want a more physical experience (getting held down, gagged with cock, feeling a load fill your hole), a mental experience (being told you're a good boy, knowing you belong on the ground, earning permission to cum) or both.

When you know you want something, be a man about it and put effort in achieving it. Stop being a little bitch about your shit and all the barriers and excuses. You hold yourself back. Be smart about your decisions and use your head vs your cock to make these decisions. Things are possible when you put your mind to them. You can have a discussion today and come back a month from now when you're much more mentally ready. I recommend have that person who is always in your corner who you can trust and talk to. If that guy happens to enjoy what you have to say and helps make you into that submissive good boy, even better!! A best friend turned sex scenario is always fun.