Tl;dr - My wife and I were exploring whether or not I am bi. I felt apprehensive even going to a gay bar for the first time. And yet, upon arrival, I was immediately singled out for being too "straight", and now I just feel ashamed, embarrassed, and even horrified of the entire ordeal. I am worried I might not even have a place anywhere within the gay community, and that was my worst fear of going there in the first place.

What should I do?

Full Backstory: For the last two years, my wife and I have been exploring more and more of my bi fantasies. We even have agreed that we are both open to bringing another male into our sex life...

Well... I finally wired up the courage (with her help) and I just went to a local gay bar for the first time with my her tonight. Here is what went down...

We were both sitting and enjoying the evening, with our arms around eachother.

Periodically she would head to the dance floor to have some fun, while I watched and listened to the music.

Then... A woman sits across from us and with eyes blazing she asks, "You do know this is a gay bar, right?" She was pissed but I was determined to not allow her to ruin the night.

I said, "yeah yeah, no problem. We're good!" In a very chill tone. She just rolled her eyes and continued to stare us down from time to time.

Then, when I went to the bathroom, I came back to find my wife dancing again, and the lady was leaning over my cell phone, when I saw her she flicked the phone off the table and into the floor.

I asked, "why did you do that?!"

She responded, flicking her wrist in the air, "I thought I saw some shit on the table". And then she got up and walked away to a friend of hers across the bar.

I then noticed my wife's phone was also missing and I was mad. I eventually found the phone thanks to some friendly patrons (it had been flicked under the pool table).

I then we up to the lady and her friend and said, "Hey, I don't want to cause any issues, but it seems you are not liking us being here. I just want to let you know that we are good, and I just came here with her to have a good time. I don't mean any harm to you or your friend"

At this, she started raising her voice saying, "I told you to go away from me!" And her friend echoed her, even louder...

At this point people were looking at me, so I took my cue and checked out at the bar and called an Uber.

I felt apprehensive even going to a gay bar for the first time. And yet, upon arrival, I was immediately silgled out for being too "straight", and now I just feel ashamed, embarrassed, and even horrified of the entire ordeal. I am worried I might not even have a place anywhere withing the gay community, and that was my worst fear of going there in the first place.

Worse, who am I? Am I even bi? Am I exuding so mush stiffness and nervousness that I am assumed straight? Was the wife being there the problem? (She was my greatest sourse or strength when getting the courage to go... I am so confused...