This is a simple confession. Some time ago, I(34y, M) connected with a woman (45y, F) on a dating site. We were both looking for the same thing, great sex and no real feelings.

Fast forward to the first time we meet. She states you have full control. I am not doing this to say that this was my intention, but hearing her say it turned me, increased my confidence, and was sure to offer her the best experience. Before our first meeting, I discussed some of the wins and losses of her sexual history. Imagine her surprise when I told her I wrote notes. With notes, I can imagine how some tools, actions, or words may have a positive or negative impact on her having sex. I won't share everything I learned, but it is important to note a few things he loved sex but has never cum more than 2 or 3 times during intercourse, and she has had many partners(less than 12). In conclusion, I used all the information to sexually and mentally give her as many orgasms as she could stand(to over-stimulate).

In the end, after 2 hours and 12 orgasms, she needed to stop. What happened next she didn't suspect.

We stayed in contact, and a day later, I received a text: Because of who you are sexually, I think you feed off of other people's needs even if they don't tell you what they are. You study people to make the experiences better for them but for someone like me who tends to be guarded, it can be unnerving. You are a genuine person who, I believe, cares about other people to a degree, but you also use that during sex.

Previously, sexual interactions were just sex and not feelings. And that's what weirded me(her) out about our first meeting. There was a point where I felt like that despite having no feelings for you like that.

She goes on note, When you meet someone who touches on your wannabe freaky yet gentle side, it does something to you.

This was the first time someone articulated what it is like to have sex with me.