So, here’s the deal: I’m 36, pretty straight-laced overall, and I’ve always tried to set a good example for my kid. I’m big on teaching responsibility, honesty, and making good choices. But last night, the tables turned.

My 16-year-old walked in on me having a moment of relaxation in the garage. Yep, I was smoking some Mary and Jane but I rarely do it—more of a "once in a blue moon" kind of thing—but now I feel like I’m in a moral bind.

The look on their face wasn’t angry, but it wasn’t neutral either. There was definitely some disappointment (or confusion?) there. They didn’t say much beyond, “Really, Dad?” before walking off.

Here’s the dilemma: I’ve always told them to avoid substances until they’re older and can make sound decisions. I talk a big game about leading by example, but now I feel like I’ve wrecked that image.

How do I address this without sounding like a hypocrite? Do I admit I slipped up? Do I explain my occasional use and try to differentiate it from reckless behavior? Or do I just hope this blows over?

Parents of teens (or anyone with solid advice), I’m all ears. How would you handle this?