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My girlfriend of 10 years cheated on me, had affairs with two guys, got pregnant, and had an abortion—now she wants to talk, but I’m avoiding her. What should I do?
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I never thought I’d be in a situation like this. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 years.we were high school sweethearts. She’s been such a huge part of my life, and I truly loved her with all my heart.

But recently, my world has completely fallen apart. I found out she’s been cheating on me. Not just with one guy, but with two guys at the same time. She even had physical relationships with both of them. To make things worse, she got pregnant with one of them and secretly had an abortion.

What hurts the most is knowing that all this was happening while I trusted her completely. She even used to take money from me while carrying on these affairs. I feel so betrayed, humiliated, and broken. Ever since I found out, I’ve been distancing myself from her. I don’t have the courage to confront her because I don’t even know how to process all of this. I just feel numb. Now it seems like she’s feeling ashamed of her past and wants to open up to me, but I’ve been avoiding her because I don’t think I’m ready to hear what she has to say.

I’m honestly at my lowest point. I feel so depressed, and I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t even want to live anymore.it feels like my whole life has been a lie.

What should I do? Should I hear her out, or is it better to walk away from her for good? How do I even begin to recover from this?

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She's for the streets..she done told you

Learn your lesson and cut her off

Block her ass on everything

My man, it gets so much better. You need time and distance in 1-2 years you will be better than you ever were with her, but it's so hard to see it right now and it's going to hurt off and on for probably a good year. But once you have that distance you'll realize all the unhealthy elements in your old relationship dynamics.

I don't think you'll be happy with yourself if you stay there's at least 50/50 odds she cheats again. Partners who blindside their partners with cheating, where there partner is lead to think everything is great are usually serial cheaters.

Move out and of there something to still be worked out message through a mutual party if you can

Dump her and move on. If you don't, you will relive that horrible time in your life every day for most of the rest of your life. It doesn't get easier. You will happily be doing something, and out of the blue, it will hit you, and you will spiral down that rabbit hole again. If you are very lucky, you learn how to avoid these thoughts for a few days, but it always comes back.

You will hate yourself for being too much of a coward to move on. You will always be looking for the next time she cheats on you... and she will.

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