I’ve been married to my wife for over 11 years. Overall the marriage has been good. Good, but not perfect. We’ve had normal highs and lows like any couple, except the mental health thing.

2 years into our marriage I learned that my wife was suicidal. We tried to care for her the best we could by leaning in and getting tting the right medical help. Things got better. We had our first child. Moved halfway across the state, and were beginning to experience a wonderful life together. Year 3 we had our first child and the mental health issue got progressively worse. We were going to the hospital 4/5 times a year for mental health related visit, and slowley my wife started to develop a new perception of reality during these episodes. One were I was no longer a caring husband, but a womanizing, infidelity driven, hateful man.

Never did she even hint at these things when she was well and on her meds. But when she was off, and things were bad. The were really bad.

Fast forward 7 years later and she has just accused me of the most egregious acts again, with no proof. She’s told family members friends and acquaintances that I’m doing all of these things. Which are untrue. She has been off of her medication for a month turned violent and now I’m forced to put her on a restraining order. Despite multiple efforts from me, family and friends she refuses to get help.

We have 3 young kids. At this point I don’t see any other option outside of divorce. I recent saw text messages on her phone where she is plotting to take my money and permanently damage my reputation.

I’m mixed. I know this is not my wife? But I’m also forced to protect what we’ve established, most importantly our kids. I’ve filled for divorce. Am I wrong?

For context Im a strong Christian