I stopped drinking after the end of a previous relationship that really caught me off guard. I was an emotional mess and I knew that drinking would be the worst thing for me to do so I stopped and got a councillor and sorted my life out. Now 424 days later I am in a new relationship (6 months). When I met this girl she was not drinking at all after also having difficulties with alcohol and she also wanted to loose weight. She was a bigger drinker than me. Fast forward 3 months into our relationship and she begins drinking again, and it's a mess. She has blacked out at my house being drunk as well as missed a dinner because she went to the pub herself and got blind drunk there. I've basically had to not be around her when she is drinking. This has worked to an extent but she feels that I am being too harsh making her change her behavior around me. The problem is that she wasn't drinking when we met each other and I don't like being around the drunk version of her. She wants to progress our relationship and move in together but I have told her that I don't know how that will work with her drinking. Am I being unreasonable? I've made her upset but I have done alot of hard work to get to this point and being around her drinking is like being a designated driver. It's all fun for the drinkers, but the driver is having a shit time and that's how I feel it will turn out. I really do like her and she is a ln amazing person, but I can't handle the drunk version. I feel like the alcohol version of a reformed smoker.