This probably is not the correct place for this post, but /blendedfamilies and /relationships have terrible advice that is extremely negative.

I have been with my SO for over a year, and during this time, he found that he has a second daughter. SD3. We have done a pretty darn good job of blending our family (not yet living together though), with my daughter 8, and his daughter 8. His second BM with SD3 has kept SO out of SD3's life. I get it. It was a one night stand, and that would be super weird. But she went after child support, and now that SO knows that SD3 exists, he wants visitation.

So here is where my guilt comes in. I have a lot in common with BM. I became pregnant with my daughter at 20, by a man who I barely knew. The more I got to know him, the more I realized something was mentally wrong with him. We dated casually in a long distance situation for 2 months when I found out I was pregnant. I told him I would raise my daughter myself, and I didn't hear from him after that.

Seeing the parallels between the two situations, I reached out to BD for the first time. My daughter has never met him. Our phone call was....weird. He was talking rapidly, about things that were irrelevant or just strange. He told me about how he FB stalked me using comic book character names, and make sure I understood who each character was, and what comic they were from. He also told me about how he went CRAZY years ago but he is all better now! I found out from a mutual acquaintance that he has been diagnosed as schizophrenic.

I told him to txt me, and maybe we could talk more about him meeting his daughter who he has never met. (reminder, it has been 8 years since she was born). He did not txt me. A month later he calls out of the blue, does not leave a VM. I sent him a txt and asked that he txt me instead of call. I have heard nothing since.

Given his mental health, should I even be trying???