First! I would like to say it is hilarious that we use BM for birth mother, as my mind automatically thinks Bowel Movement. I digress.

I am in a loving, wonderful, and hopefully long lasting relationship with my SO. We do not live together, but we have already started blending our family, we have known each other for years, and we are quite serious. When my job opens up near him (waiting for someone to retire) we will finally move in with him. We both have 8 year old daughters. So far, I have not had to deal with BM1, because she is a registered sex offender and cannot see her daughter YET (court is working up to visitations).

We recently found out that a BM2 is entering the scene. My bf was ordered to take a paternity test, and it is positive. He will be going to court soon for the parenting plan. BM2 up til this point has been blocking him from meeting his newest daughter (3). They have met once. All signs point to a bad situation.

Has anyone else had to deal with more than one BM? My instincts tell me to not have any contact with either at any point, as I don't want to complicate things further for my bf. I am VERY excited to meet his new daughter and begin having a relationship with her. It is such a strange situation!