I saw some pretty intimate and naked photos of SO and his ex - yep, that happened. Lots of photos - together and seperate. It was my own fault to snoop inside a PC folder that didn't belong to me. And even bigger fault of mine to continue "browsing" the collection of photos. I believe him wholeheartedly that he didn't know the folder existed (he was shocked and deleted it straight away when I told him what I saw). There is a small part of me that questions the truth of it and if he kept the folder for sentimental reasons (there were wedding photos in there too) - his ex has told me in the past that he's prone to "white lies"

I've got pretty big body image issues, and I was raised to value my appearance which lead me to believe my self worth was tied to that. I've never spoken to my SO about my body image issues and he likely wouldn't have a clue, given how I give off an comfortable sense of self confidence.

He knows I'm struggling with seeing these photos, but I don't think he knows the extent of it. I get intrusive thoughts of seeing these photos when we have sex, or just at random moments during the day. My body image issues are the big one. I feel his ex had a better body than me, way perkier and fuller breasts than me, perfect round non-saggy arse. I just feel so broken about it because I love him, but I essentially feel like shit and I'm struggling to be intimate with him.

I guess I'm also struggling with the fact that I'm going to have to see this woman at future events. The relationship with her is pretty fractured and high-conflict which complicates things even more. I just don't want to be living with these perpetual intrusive thoughts but I have no idea how I'm supposed to move forward.