I’m (f37) in a long distance relationship with a man I really think could be the love of my life (m40). he has three kids between 4-14, shared custody 50/50 with BM.

I love kids, and I love big families, but I have never been up for the idea of being pregnant, having a baby, or being a mother.

When I met my partner and he told me he had three kids, my first thought was “great! I get to be a part of a big family, and don’t have to have a baby”

He does not want me to be a maid or a mother, I’ve been very clear that’s not what I can offer. He is so kind, and gentle, and he’s a good dad from what I can tell. I haven’t met the kids yet.

I joined this Reddit once he and I started getting serious about 6 months ago. Lots of women seem unhappy as a SM, but it seems like most of them are true child free OR wanted their own children. I get how being a SM could get in the way of how they wanted things to go.

Is there anyone, men or women, who have found being a step parent to be a net positive?