The kids have a HCBM who spoils them and says yes to their every wish. They are all under 12. Three of them.

I mainly try to be by myself when the kids are here. I have my own office which I’m usually legitimately working in, and a large master bedroom I can hide out in. LOL.

I don’t like sitting on the couch and watching movies…. And if it’s a kids movie? Definitely cannot pay attention. I will be in my room doing laundry or something.

I do cook for them often, attend their extracurriculars etc.

I don’t like hanging out with them by myself (without my partner) because I dislike how they act. They didn’t used to be so spoiled, but the HCBM is really trying to overcompensate. Partner can do the discipline, and he does!! But I will not.

So we end up being the disciplined household and her house is a free for all.

I am afraid that one day the kids will decide they want to spend all their time at moms because she lets them do whatever, act however they want, with no discipline at all. I don’t want to be a factor in that reason so I’ve slowly become a NACHO. I literally go about doing my own thing, I don’t watch movies on the couch, I don’t go out of my way to do anything for them. I will most definitely have a conversation with them if they do talk to me of course… but I’ve stopped trying to be “amazing stepmom”- Why do I kind of feel guilty about it?!