My SO is a fantastic, attentive, loving father to his daughter (almost 4). SO and BM have a roughly 60/40 custody split with my SO having her more often. (I think that's pertinent info because "my SO is a great dad EOWE" carries a different context than "my SO has primary custody and is a great dad", right?)

I'm 28w pregnant with a baby that was very much a surprise. We had a bit of a rough start with him needing some time at first to decide how he felt about another child, but he's been more and more into it as time goes on. He's been getting SD excited for a baby brother and taught her how to say his name and say hi to my baby bump :)

I worry a lot about whether he's going to care about this baby as much as he cares about SD because of the rocky start we got off to with the pregnancy being unplanned. I also see a lot of stuff in this sub about people's SO's not treating their "ours" baby the same as their other bio kids. Does anyone have an SO who loves all their children the same, both the one(s) with their ex and the one(s) with you? If your SO doesn't love your child the same as their other kids, what's that experience like for you and the children? Do you do anything to try to equalize the situation?

I asked him the other day if he thinks he'll love baby as much as he loves his daughter and got a very enthusiastic and sincere "i'm sure of it" in response, but I still worry... 😅