We have basically been taking SD 5 a majority of every weekend for the past 2 years. SO and BM don’t have a formal custody agreement. SO will just tell BM when he wants weekend off and then they always fight about it because BM wants to get rid of both her kids every weekend, holiday, and school break no matter what. SO has not had steady employment over the past 2 years that we’ve been dating so few usually been home to take care of SD so it’s been fine but I do want him to work because I am getting sick of having little to no financial help. Well a few weeks ago SO finally got a decent job. Problem is that they need him to work every weekend. For clarity, we only have one car. We are both on the title but i make mostly all the payments by myself and he doesn’t even have a drivers license. He did not have a vehicle or license when we met. We live in a really small town and I commute to work so when he chose to move in his only options are to work around my schedule or find a job in the small town we live in. So no it’s not as simple as him getting a new job to work during the week to be home with SD every weekend. Because I’m not a monster I said if he tells BM that we want to switch visitation to EOW I will watch SD while he works so he still can see her. But that I will not and do not want to babysit every single weekend. I work full time, do online school full time, and have 2 teenage daughters of my own. I want at least EOW to have free time, extra study time, or spend time with just my own kids. I don’t think that is unreasonable. So two weeks ago SO goes I told BM that we can’t take SD this weekend. She was really mad tho. I said why would she be mad, you told her about EOW so it’s her weekend anyway? He says yeah I told her but shes still mad. So last weekend was our weekend. BM drops SD off sick af but I keep my mouth shut and watch her all day Saturday because I said I would do that for SO. Don’t get any studying or homework done because she’s sick and whiny and crying all day. On Sunday I double check with SO that BM is going to pick up SD before he goes back to work because I have a midterm and paper due that day. BM throws a fit. She knew SO had to work but didn’t care and expected me to babysit a second day in a row. So yesterday we called to wish stepdaughter a happy Valentine’s Day and BM goes oh hey she doesn’t have school on Monday so can you keep her an extra day this weekend? SO goes yeah sure I’d have to talk to (me) but I’m sure it’s fine. She hangs up the phone and I just look at him incredulously like WTF. I said you told me you told BM about EOW So why does she think we’re taking SD this weekend?? He says I did tell her she’s just dumb and then he tried to accuse me of starting a fight with him. So obviously he never told BM. Am I Wrong to be upset about this? Am I wrong to want at least every other weekend to not have to babysit? I already barely have any free time and I feel like I’m putting in more work than anyone else in the house so I don’t feel like it’s fair to me to not have any weekends free to myself.