I've been married for 10 years , my step daughter was 1 when I started dating her mom my wife , we have 3 children together, 5,7,10 and my step daughter 15. Life has been stressful her dad isn't always in the picture but likes to make it seem he is. When my step daughter was younger she inappropriately touched my bio daughter in which we made the decision to call Community services looking for help , I wasn't allowed to hear the findings since I wasn't the BIO dad , so at that time we were told to put her into counseling and they would let us know where. Well that didn't happen we did out her in counseling but we did it all no services or bio dad , we were told it was just curiosity. Years go by and things seem some what normal but then boom she does it to the next daughter at the age of 4 so again I reach out to Community services, they tell me to put bells or alarms on the kids doors, we make adjustments put her back into counseling private this time 180 a pop, reach out to bio dad and ask for assistance with payment yepp big fat 0. Things seem to go well she carries on through starts middle school and we think we'll she doesn't have a lot of friends she should maybe see the councilor at school see if they can help her , things are going well then boom Community services shows up at my house because she told them I beat her and made her sit on the stairs for hours with soap in her mouth , never happened I work nights my mother in law lived with us and then my sister and her husband always had 8 in hour house because were crazy . So we had to have our sitter interviewed and anyone else that knew the kids , so I'm cleared so we continue with counseling. Then a couple months later my now 7 year old tells us she was again told to do a inappropriately act on my step daughter , I'm at work when my wife tells me this I work an hour away and nights so I'm gone from 12 to 12 5 days a week.
So this time we are trying to figure out what to do and my wife decides to keep her home from school , let the school know whats going on and we move her out and to her grandparents from her bio dad, we are still discussing what the next step is and we know the school phoned it in as per discussion with them. I'm home with two of my girls and get a call that Community services are at the elementary school to interview my kids and I need to get there, so I get my parents to watch my 5 year old at the time and 3 year old so I can meet my wife there . My wife's friend also reported us saying we didn't take this situation seriously so they have taken our kids away my parents were able to watch the 3 girls we have together, but we find out that the grandparents were the oldest is has a file on record for molestation so we have to move her so we get my aunt and her wife to watch her. I regain my girls after a week and proving we did reach out for help, the oldest is charged with sexual assault, ends up going from my aunts to a safe house to a group home , During the process she is accessed and were told Bio dad or grandfather may have molested her because she was using luring techniques and they both had history. Its been a long two and half years she just moved back in. Life is not normal we have a security Camera set up to alarm if she comes up stairs during the night , three girls sleep in one room a across from us and weekly counseling for everyone. Bio dad is still allowed access but is inconsistent so I'm still the bad guy, I do all the counseling appointments look for her when she was running away from the group home , but I follow the strict playbook they gave to keep the family safe which my wife thinks is to strict . We live together but walk on egg shells when the oldest isn't around its the only time me and my wife fight , the kid will walk in and we all watch what she has on TV. I have threated to leave to give my kids a better life but struggle instead stay to be told I'm a liar from her and fight with my wife , I lay awake at night listening for foot steps and ketch naps when no ones home.

Anyone else go through this ?