I was inspired to post this based on the pinned post. Not every donation is smooth sailing and not every recipient is the same. After donating off and on for the past few years I can confidently say that you should not feel bad turning people away. Always make sure you ask any possible question you can think of before meeting up. Lastly always go with your gut and if the situation feels off don't do it. When you go against it you'll get stories like the one I'm about to share.

I matched with this girl on justababy and we got to chatting about me possibly making a donation. We both agreed on the donation method and level of contact desired. After a week of back and forth we decide on a day we're going to meet and do the deed. However, the day of she informs me that she has cold feet about doing it naturally. Ok no problem I assure her that's fine I'll just do it artificially in a cup. She sends me the address and in comes the first red flag. The apartment complex is pretty run down and not in the best of shape. I should've known that if she was struggling now adding a baby to the mix wasn't going to help. But ok I brush it off and start driving there.

When I arrive she texts me the apartment number and I start walking up. We do an awkward hello and she leads me in the apartment. I walk in and the place looks absolutely disgusting, messy, and dirty. Shit now I'm already here and there's no turning back. She leads me to the bathroom and somehow it was even worse than the living area. It looked like it had never been cleaned and there was shit everywhere. I didn't even want to sit on the toilet to jerk off into the cup. So I do it standing up and as quickly as possible. When I'm finished I go to wash my hands and that's when I saw a baby roach crawl out behind the faucet. That's where I drew the line and said fuck this is no environment for a child. Thinking quickly I grab the cup and dump a majority of the sperm down the drain. I walk out as quickly as possible and got as far away from that apartment as I could.

A few hours later she texts me thank you and she would like to meet again. I contemplated just ghosting her but I felt that was immature. Instead I decided to just man up and tell her that I was sorry but her apartment was disgusting. I wasn't interested in donating to her again; much less naturally. She was upset and tried defending herself but I wasn't having it. From that point forward I no longer felt bad turning people away. At the end of the day I (the sperm donor) have what they need (sperm) so I feel it's only right I can afford to be choosy. Stay safe out there guys and best of luck donating!