Hey everybody! This is my first time posting in this sub. I am32m, husband to my wife 28f. So, I’m not quite sure what to write here so I will accept info dumps as answers, and I will read everything sent to me. We are brand new to sounding. Not at all new to kink though, and while originally the idea of sounding scared me due to all the videos of painful sounding, my wife recently admitted to me the fantasy of sounding me. She’s gently teased the entrance with her finger or tongue during play, but nothing inserted yet. I will admit that we are both audhd, and we dive deep into subjects we’re interested in. And my wife is VERY interested in doing this to me, so over the last few weeks she’s done countless hours of research on the topic. I’m sure she’s posted on here as well. But alas, now it’s my turn to post. I’m new to this, and there is absolutely still a part of me that’s viscerally scared to do this, and to have anything inserted into my penis. (Note: I am bi and very much so enjoy anal stimulation so the act of insertion into my body isn’t an issue). However, I am truly excited to do this, it sounds and looks hot. But I’m scared. She said, “the first time there may be discomfort”, which makes complete sense. But in my head, it’s that “little pinch” the doctors say before the searing jab of pain, which I’m afraid to have happen in my penis. I hope this makes enough sense. Moreover, I have permission and want to do this on her as well. So my questions:

Can anyone quell my fear of the pain? I just want honestly and to know what to expect, please don’t downplay it if it’s a little intense.

Can anyone give me some backstory or information on male sounding, as well as maybe how to prep, how to do it the first time (if someone’s doing it to you), how do orgasms work, proper equipment, sizing ect.

Lastly, can anyone give me backstory or information on female sounding? How to prep, how to do it to my wife the first time, clit stimulation with this or vaginal penetration or just by itself, and proper equipment as it differs from the lens I believe? Does it have to differ?

Last note: we bought sounding toys. We’ve received them, I’m just needing this to fill the gaps so I can have a stronger sense of resolve to do this thing my wife finds so incredibly hot and I do too)

Thank you all for your time, I’m sorry this was such a novel!