So I’ve arrived at a hostel in Costa Rica, solo travelling for 3rd time I think. This is quite a sociable hostel, quite a lively bar at night. I’m (19F), feeling pretty mixed emotions on how sociable I’m being. The first night I missed the welcome drink because I went to bed instead, but this was valid because I was literally hallucinating as I hadn’t slept in 40 hours from travelling. But that I also wrestled with for a while as to whether I really should go. Today I spoke with someone properly for the first time, but left pretty promptly after 30 mins for no real reason other than still pretty tired. Then when walking back to my room at about 8:30pm, a young guy came up to me and said ‘excuse me, I know you are solo traveller, we are going to a club after this so you can come so your not alone’, at ‘we’ he gestured at the part of bar consisting solely of guys in their early 20’s. They seemed nice and I said thank you but I’m not planning on going, and I can’t distinguish whether it’s because it’s reasonable because going clubbing with a bunch of stranger dudes at night in a country I already feel pretty at risk in (my friend and I also got spiked a week or so prior which doesn’t help), is a bad idea and I’m not wanting to do it enough to risk it, or do I actually want to do it but am just scared/nervous/socially anxious and it’s holding me back. I genuinely can’t tell, but I tend to feel this way with everything social based when solo travelling, where it’s a mix of trying to be safe social anxiety genuinely enjoying my own company and doing my own thing guilt about not socialising. Does anyone else get this, how do you respond to it?