Hello all,

I've been with my nesting partner for 8 years. We have a young child. We always knew we would likely be non-monogamous. However, recently it's becoming clear that he is more emotionally monogamous, and I've been feeling claustrophobic. He has casual sexual relationships with others. I have casual and non-casual relationships with others. I love him and he is a wonderful father. He hasn't changed since we started dating, or done anything wrong. We are having increasing conflict because I am desiring more freedom. I fantasize about being solo poly with no one to have to warn ahead of time about my schedule and dates, no one to have to placate with sufficient family time, sufficient date nights. The other, related issue is that my libido for my nesting partner is low. This is a problem I've had with every long term relationship I've ever had. We still have sex (actually, we have *more* sex when I'm seeing others than when I'm not seeing anyone else).

Advice? Thoughts?