I know a few poly people. One friend is really about the primary/secondary poly idea, and all those type of things. As a friend, this is okay to me, but it's rather disheartening to have trouble finding poly people, yet the poly people I meet still seem to have a mono mindset. All the mono notions of how relationships work. And that's just for friends! Finding any compatible love interest narrows down people more.

I still am open to meeting people who aren't poly at all - that's not the problem. I want to meet people already navigating poly as I am. It's easier to engage with common ground.

I'd love to talk to some people via PM here on reddit - what your personal life is like, how a solopoly attitude affects you, or just someone to banter with that I relate to. So, message me! I am also looking to hear some advice on where like-minded people might be hiding!