A tonne of us start out in the world thinking that having people like you is always in our control. “If I say the right thing, act the right way, I can make them like me.” Then we go out there and try our absolute hardest to win over everybody… but we find no matter what we do, some people still aren’t into us.

The stubborn people double down even harder, wasting unnecessary time and energy, in an effort to try and win over 100% of people (which is impossible). The smart people realise that socialising, making friends, and dating is just a numbers game – some people will like you, some won’t, so the only way to surround yourself with lots of amazing people is to talk to a lot of new people.

It’s like sales. You’re not trying to win over every person; you’re just looking for one buyer. Seeing if you get along with someone is basically saying: “Here’s what I have to offer. Do you like what I’m offering? If you do, we’ll keep in touch. If not, no worries.”

You can’t MAKE someone want what you’re offering. They either want it or they don’t. A particular people will either like you, or she won’t. You should obviously put in lots of effort and try your hardest to put your best foot forward, but if after you’ve done your best and they still aren't interested, you need to know when to move on and seek out new people. You aren’t going to be best mates with everyone you ever meet. Just find the ones who click with you.

Not everyone on this planet is going to like you. Don’t worry about the people who don’t gel with you – focus your energy on finding the ones you do click with. You can’t force everyone to like you – but I promise, there’s plenty of people out there who’ll think you’re bloody awesome.

-Andy