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I have an issue where I seem to have an issue where most people come across empty or having no interest in anything and just seeming to see me as amazing or wanting me to lead and do all the talking or acting (it's quiet annoying. As I want a sense of equality and not to feel alone, and this situation makes me feel alone)

Overtime this has lead me to a series of crappy friendships where they just used me because I made them feel good and helped them, some crappy "connections" where the women claimed they wanted a "connection" but only behaved towards sex and security, and in general just has me questioning why I keep finding this.

This lead me to trying to focus on others more and trying to get them to open up more before I make them feel great or secure (as I hate when somone falls in "l0 ve" with me or wants to be close to me but I don't know them much at all because they don't share much of themselves)

I decided to ask this women I know about social advice as perhaps she may say somthing that can help me figure out why people are so closed off. We started talking and she mentioned how mabey I shouldn't ask deep questions about them such as what do they want to do in life or what would they like to do if they could do anything. She suggested I ask them about their job, and other closed ended questions as oppsed to open ended ones.

I expressed to her that I don't know how to use those types of questions and the information often feels odd to ask for as I don't know how to use that information unless I wanted to size them up to use them for somthing. She expressed that saying that made me sound like I felt superior to her and if she was in a public setting wouldn't want to talk to me anymore.

Later on I thought about it and realized, I didn't say anything to reasonably make anyone think I was seeing myself as superior. I simply stated my inability to understand or use that type of information outside of manipulation or exploitation. This made me realize that she was projecting her own sense of insecurity on me.... but it also made me think about how somthing like this can make sense as to why I get alot of empty people... perhaps I come across too well put together and that can be intimidating, or people just get insecure and project easily.

This also made me think of how projection is a self fulfilling prophecy, as by closing themselves off because they think I think I am superior, they would only behave in a way that would eventually lead me to think less of them or see nothing in them, thus making it "true".

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This made wonder, does anyone have any advice on how to keep attempting to socialize without letting the people who project bring down my feelings of people in general, and how to avoid the mental fatigue of trying to get decent interactions.

I don't want to have to show off, or end up worse... becoming cold and confrontational because of all the bad experiences.

Also I am a man of action, and don't care much for shared ideas if their is no shared action. (This was related to a postive take away from that women as she also seemed to talk about shared ideas, and to me those don't exist, only shared actions as ideas are our own personal understanding of somthing... so this also shows what audience I may get along better with)

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Edit: the had to reword it to complie with bot regarding (re-lat-t0in ship) term words.