I’m new to Reddit, I’ve only been on here about a week or so. I’ve been trying so damn hard to work on my own mindset. I used to visit a site called Measurection, but eventually I left because it wasn’t for me. It’s 99.995% gay guys and the 3 odd women that were there left for their own mental health because they couldn’t take the constant barrage of negativity, the screams of them being liars and how they’re just there to make themselves feel good. Guys, honestly, do you think they could possibly get anything from being under continued assault for just trying to be empathetic? Seriously? I for one welcome a woman’s feedback, it gives me a glimmer of hope, not much because it’s one voice against hundreds, but you have to respect at least the attempt to be a decent empathetic human being. I for one would hate for Koosobie and the other ladies to leave, as after looking through some of their post histories these are some awesome ladies. Several months ago she was on BDP verbally beating the shit out of the people over there’s for cracking jokes about guys that are small. But I digress.

The main problem is the feeling that we guys have is we want to be DESIRED, not just loved. We want to be WANTED. We want women to LUST after us the way they lust after a guy with a big dick, and I think this has only gotten worse with the internet being so prevalent. I’m 47 so I’ve been around since before there really was an internet. Some women require a big dick. At some point, every woman wants to try a big dick, if for no other reason than to sate their curiosity, even if it’s too much. So it feels like they’re settling for us, but seriously, isn’t that kind of what a relationship is? A series of negotiations, trade agreements and settlements. Every single person in every relationship everywhere is settling to some degree or another. There’s always something they’d change even if that person is “the one” and the “love of their life”.

I love my wife dearly, and yes she did cheat on me, killing me mentally and emotionally. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD because of it. I’d wake up from nightmares about people finding out I have a small dick, laughing at me. I’d have “waking nightmares” where I’m sitting at my desk at work and start thinking it’s going to happen somehow. When I was younger I was right at 4” rock hard. Now I’m not even 3” and dealing with ED, so my mental issues are growing worse, but gods damn it I’m TRYING to get better mentally. But my wife, is she my “dream girl”? No, even before she cheated on me she wasn’t. I’ve always been attracted to Latinas, going back to kindergarten and my first “love” Eva. My wife is white as white can be. You could say I “settled” for her too. But she shares my dark twisted sense of humor, we jinx each other by saying the same comment to something on TV, we love the same foods and watching a lot of the same shows. Did she settle for me and my small dick? Yep, but you know what? I’m kind of coming into the mindset that I’m fine with that because I settled for her too. My brain works weird but like I told her, Love is Tolerance. It’s putting up with the things you don’t like because the things you do like outweigh them. Do we worry about being able to satisfy a woman? Damn skippy. There a saying about lighting candles versus screaming at the darkness, and I’m kind of going hoarse.

But to skip back to the other ladies here. Guys, can we please give u/Koosobie and the others a break. They literally gain NOTHING by coming here other than the truly decent desire to try to help someone they see hurting. If there were more ladies like them, this place wouldn’t even need to exist.

End Rant