The giveaway is in the subreddit name, you're here for the talk; to know about others. There is the general discussion and dynamics in the posts and comments, but what about getting to know someone individually? What about that person who shares in your interests and can converse about it in a respectable, patient and engaging manner?

Friendships can be hard to find, IRL and online. You never really know what a person can be like, which for some can be exciting, but for others quite intimidating. Some people have no restraint when it comes to DM'ing others, while some are too scared to take the risk, and worse, some may want that interaction but have been burned before and no longer know what to think.

We all have our reasons. So, what is it you want? What sort of people do you want to interact with, and how do you think such a friendship could manifest?

Personal

I'm heavily introverted. I seek out my own company, and relish the cozy, mediative silence that my mind settles and organizes solely within. Yet, in an idealized form, I still long for a mentally tactile company who can suppliment in some of our shared interests and reciprocate certain topics in a thought-out and emotionally intelligent manner, that seeks to learn and feel for. Not someone whom is like me, but who sees personal value in my input and feels they benefit from our interactions. Idealized? Yes, and perhaps there is still much for a stuffy and wordy person as myself to learn and understand in the nuances of people and conversation. It's this doubt of self that brings me here, yearning yet scared to reach out, scared that I may misunderstand or ironically overwhelm a giant in my excessive and emotionally charged discourses. Terrible, that in order to be better I must first be awful, and that I only want to be awful on my own time. I'd hate to waste or traumatize the time of a woman as a man grappling between a desire to be refined and supportive, and yet supplicated by an underlaying sexual drive that needs recognition and seizes into a woman's own needs, to ravage in her own desires and see to it she's not left wanting in the wake of my own appetite. I want to be acknowledged as I am, yet seen for something better, and, still quite terribly, sometimes seen for my need to be tiny, to be vulnerable and at the mercy of someone who merely allows my presence.

Idealized? Yeah, and I'm not expecting any manner of success. I will continue to write here, curious as always to the community's mind. Yet I still would like to know what it is and how it is that I ought to approach, introduce and carry myself towards a bigger woman of whom I harbor no expectation, save the cautious and courteous engagement of our interests and the emotions that govern them. Am I wrong? I fear I lack information. I would like to know.

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