Being sissy or straight, short or tall, conservative or liberal, boy or girl, skinny or thick etc etc, describes something about you, but will never accurately define who you are. It is a label.

So, I've decided to explore the term "sissy" and all that it entails as a follow up to my earlier post. This is targeted at newcomers who are still conflicted about how to proceed with their identity.

I personally, identify as sissy and now also as a trans female. It has been a journey of self-discovery and acceptance for me.

Growing up, I struggled with my identity. I knew I was different from the other boys in my class. They wanted to play sports and build things, but I wanted to play dress-up, gossip and paint my nails. I didn't though because that was wrong and 'gay'. Boys couldn't be girly or pretty or delicate. At least according to the world that surrounded me.

As a young teenager, I started experimenting with cross-dressing. I dressed in my mother's underwear and shaved my legs. Then, I did a lot more exploring and that led to me discovering the term sissy. It was such a freeing experience to find a community of people online who loved being what society called "soft, delicate, feminine, submissive." But other terms often get used for sissies like "weak, pathetic, less than, beta, loser"

At least for me, I get why it's hot to be called pathetic, not man enough and weak. It validates the voice in the back of my head that says things like; "being a feminine male is wrong." "Liking men is wrong. " "Wanting to be a girl is wrong." "Dressing up as a girl is wrong" etc.. Anytime I indulged in a "wrong" behavior (anything that wasn't hetero typical) It turned me on. Being bad always has turned me on. It probably goes back to how I was taught sex was wrong so I associate sex with doing something I shouldn't.

My self esteem was at an all time low when I met my ex wife. I married the first women who liked me as a male and was miserable my entire marriage because I never got my needs met. But I was okay with it because my needs were "wrong".

It only started to change when I started to focus on my actual needs and learned to not label my needs as "wrong" I needed to feel validated, valued, understood, accepted, desired for who I am. I needed a cock in me and I needed to feel pretty. Instead I was trying to fit my needs around the label I choose to be with my ex wife (heterosexual cis male). Turns out those things never met my needs. I don't want to be dominant with a women, I don't want to be those things my ex wife wanted me to be that was typical of a straight masculine male.

So I totally understand the kink side of indulging in the labels. Why I'm writing this though is to address the harm in it. Be careful with the negative labels. Being horny is a huge escape for most people and just because it turns you on doesn't mean it can't have negative lasting effects. If you neglect your needs long enough you will be miserable and eventually implode. Try to seperate you, from the things you like as best as you can.

Build up your self worth, get your true needs met and grow your confidence, and then you can indulge in kinky roleplay that has all the degrading shame you want. If you already have good boundaries and confidence then ignore this post.

But if you're struggling with confidence issues, don't know what your needs are, internally conflicted or depressed; just remember you're not a sissy, you're you.