My girlfriend and I are about a month and a half into a serious relationship in which we're both looking at a really good future together. I'm happy I've found her and she's pretty much completely fallen in love with me. I'm so happy I make the world for her and over the moon that she's still finding me interesting, even after six weeks which is a lot to say of my expectations. She's caring, nurturing, emotionally interactive and I would go to f[...]ing war for her.

I'm posting here because despite that she's getting me a vibrator (which, by the fact it's one of the best toys I'll ever own, has me super excited), my anal sex drive has dipped significantly. I've started using my dick more, taken longer breaks from chastity, dipped in terms of my preferred anal grooming and self-care standards and started becoming more interested in just... going out to places more and doing social activities.

Usually, dildos and chastity cages make my sissy triggers go off. I'm usually submissive by nature, but when I'm taking anal, I become something else. Every time she uses my asshole, I enter a place where I'm just happier than joy itself; except, I want to get her to encourage me to take anal more often than I use my dick.

A while ago, I set out on the goal to have a wet hands free orgasm and it's been three and a half years since I set that goal with no success. I still haven't managed it and I want her to help me, but every time it comes to sexy time, we kinda just default to our regular routine. While it feels amazing every time, I'm still missing part of the dream I have.

I suppose I need help to be encouraged back onto the right path as well, but I want to set her on the same path to help me achieve this thing I'd hoped to have years ago so that when it came to, I could produce for her and feel my own fulfillment at the same time. I don't really want the encouragement from here, but if anyone has any ideas as to what to do in this situation, I'm open.

My birthday is in a week and a half. I'm planning to stop cumming with my dick for a couple of months and try to get her to give me anal on a much, much more regular basis. She's bought me dresses and make-up, she shares her underwear with me, she's even helped me tape tuck my balls and locked me inside my chastity cage; all of this and the sign that she's buying me a vibrator is a huge signal that she's interested in helping, but it's just bedroom mental state where everything seems to fall flat.

Maybe it's because she's more interested in the moment of having my dick in her vagina, maybe it's me and my mentally reluctant proclivity. What can I do?

(Sorry this post is so disjointed, it's nearly 3am)