6ft, 220lbs, White, Dimples, Broad shoulders.

Healthy, confident, safe, play partner. Life experienced in Rope Bondage (honestly was “born with it,” and can’t put it any other way). Not looking for anything unsafe or extreme. Not a jerk. Not here to sell myself to you other than hopefully make you understand that I’m looking to pull like minded pervs into a sexy game, but on your terms. Happily content in my life (happy to share), and looking to share that experience with others.

Elevator Pitch:  I can provide an experience for a female whom otherwise might not have the confidence or courage to expressly ask for what she wants in a rope bondage based fantasy scenario, but darn f-ing wants to. To do so safely with a Dominant man that will respect her wishes and will take the “mental paint” she is willing to share and create a fantasy that we both feel and believe in. One you never allowed yourself, or had the opportunity to experience, before.

The “experience” you ask?—Yeah, I’m being cocky by stating it like that, but I’m not into myself actually, and it’s only as good a what you bring in openness. I’m cocky because I know what I want and you will feel that assurance if we play. Your value here is your specificity and sharing of as close to what you want to your actual fantasies, without fear of judgement. The more you can share that is something you’ve always desired, but can’t “keep” (only feel), then the more I owe you back in return as a partner whom lent me that trust. It’s okay if you don’t have the words per say, just be able to express some feelings around what you want other than “being railed” or “used” (have an adult f-ing conversation and let’s make you “feel” those things as I whisper whatever theme you wanted me create in your helpless ear). Money is useless without satisfaction, satisfaction is useless if not expressed and bonded over.

So me? ---If you know the show, I’m kinda like a medium sexy “Energy Vampire” for D/s emotions (I am also a switch as well, and that experience very much plays into it---I know what it means to give up control to hopefully end up getting even 50% of what you truly won’t allow yourself to experience)—I can share examples. It’s amazing, and I want to know what you need out of either sexual or non-sexual rope bondage to get fricken off! Either at the moment, or just to take your there in the moment and leave with the mental candy that you can return to for years and years of masturbation material.

What’s the catch?—honestly not much. There’s no jealousy, no relationship issues. No! The catch is that this isn’t a date, and I’m am honestly busy (friends, life, obligations, etc.). So we will chat online a lot ahead of time. There are no games. You can respond when and how you wish, and ghost out at any time. I may do the same, but I try to be polite with anyone that is open to talking about their fantasies. Then if/when/how---maybe we eventually meet somewhere safe so you know I’m not an eel, and we walk away. We check in later, and all good either way. We then determine if what you want is something I can provide in the rope bondage fantasy arena (and of course if it is something you feel I can make you believe and be turned on by---I truly do not want to play with someone if the shoe does not fit---even if I somehow am super physically attractive to you, it’s our mental mesh that matters in this). You need to feel that the obvious risk is worth the reward (I generally end up with more daring women that just haven’t found a way to explode it out, or can’t risk it in their developed real life). From there, we simply draw up a scene based on your interest and demands, and find a way to establish trust through open vulnerability. The more our interest align, the less I need from you and will just take over. The more I have to figure out how to make my interests align with yours---then I appreciate the challenge, yet the more this will turn into a fantasy by numbers and specifics (also not bad—how many times is a woman allowed to just dictate what she actually wants without “scaring” off the guy).

Yes, this thing is long, ridiculous, and suspect (I wouldn’t have read this far), but I don’t doubt but that’s kinda the point. If you’ve read this far---maybe something agreed with you? Maybe you want a release?

I’ve been into this fetish all of my life, but it wasn’t until I figured out ways with partners to truly ask for, or land on, what I really wanted that I got to the next level. Being a sub myself (switch) really helped that. The mind is the most sexy organ, and I know (at least for myself) how to stimulate that very, very well. I truly enjoy sharing that feeling with others when I can tell that I am the right fit for their needs.

So sit on this post, think about it, and think about what you want to ask for, to talk about, to blurt out---and then bring something to the table. Your sexiness is not in your looks, moves, freakiness, or bodily assets---NO! It’s about how willing you are to share your desires, and show that intent. Women all want a “confident” male---I promise to bring that if you confidently can attempt to share what you really want. Then we figure out how to make that “thing” safe, but real, so long as your interest/openness generally matches my own. I will then be indebted to you to create at least one real, full, fantasy, a reality for you. I’m a reverse dominatrix, that gets off on knowing what sexiness is in your mind.

How do I know I can do this?---it’s easy, if I can’t fake what you’re into, then no harm, no foul; I’m out. I’ll just tell you, and that will be it (for example: I’m sorry, I’m not going to beat you, treat you like a toilet, or otherwise hurt you---that physically makes me sick). I’m also sorry, but unless you’re truly an “old soul,” please either don’t be under 30 or at least be then even more open with what you want. I don’t need the other stuff, and I don’t care who buys the drinks. In fact, I’ll probably let you do so such that there is no feeling of obligation at all on your end. But if you’re into the power dynamic of being tied up in some kind of sexy unknown open-ended scenario, then bring your ideas and let’s chat. That is your value, and my interest. At worst, you’ll gain some masturbation material when I confirm what parts turn me on, and I’ll f-ing say it, describe why, and as a “man,” make some positive noise about it. From what you then provide, I’ll help you bring ideas, examples, side fetishes, stories, etc. You’ll hear what I like and know if I’m crazy or not.

Wow, this post is already too long, and those who know this ALT account are likely shaking their heads. If you’ve read this far though, cool, thank you. That’s a lot to expect in the male dating world. Again though, that’s also the point—this is not a date---this is you taking control of what you actually want, and finding a safe anonymous place to start. There is no initial risk other than your own insecurities, and some (fun) wasted time online. I determined a decade ago that I’m not going to let my fantasies stay dreams, and it has honestly made everything in my life better. Let’s see if I can help you do the same, and get what you want and deserve.

This isn’t about what you have going on in your life with relationships, work, friends, or other things you compromise on. This is about seizing an opportunity to dip your toes into something you really want. Maybe only just to let it out here, Coffee, or drink. Who knows?--use me to figure out whom you'd then rather be with if not I, I won't be offended. Just understand that I will be honest with most things you ask, and similarly expect the same while we respect boundaries. You don't need to convince me you're a certain person or not--just be the person you want to be and know that I will follow that lead. The noted exception is that we don’t create anything that you feel vulnerable about losing control over (ex: if you want/need bondage pictures of yourself simply for a thing, website, etc., then I’ll happily provide and make it feel real and capture that in the photos….the photos on your phone, not mine).

Bla bla bla --- For ease of my interests (and our compatibility): Rope Bondage (lots, specific, targeted)—and every scene, scenario, manipulation that comes with that (hostage—maybe? Taking control of a partner because they were mouthing off?—easy. Being a brat and being put in her place?—for sure. Being made into a toy or similar?—we build to that so it’s real, but that’s easily whispered in your ear with all of the right parts)….then of course  D/s power exchange, strict situations, mental intrusion, degradation and humiliation where appropriate, cute outfits or lingerie (don’t bother guessing, I’ll advise or provide—I love it (side fetish)), adoring you when you don’t want to be looked at, breaking you and bringing you back, pushing limits (not fully breaking), going slow, going fast, sub space, aftercare, removing your control and you f-ing appreciating it, craving, edging, rewarding your honesty, and finding ways to make your fantasy align with my interests above (so you don’t have to worry one bit if I liked it, you’ll know). Finally, again, this can be done without full intimacy if needed—the mind is the organ—the memories will last longer. Then lastly, leaving you in control of your next destiny thereafter. After talk (at least 1 call after, regardless).

I’m not interested in:  voyeurism, exhibitionism, intense mummification, hitting, cutting, or abuse other than sternness or occasional slapping. *None of these are a burn on these fetishes, and I have though worked with partners on some of them that could share what some of these meant to them on a positive level. If you can do the same, then I can share what I’m willing to safely do. There’s that word again, “safe,”—this is safe because I want a partner to play with and feel their satisfaction of. I get nothing if they are not ultimately able to come out of the whole thing without a new sexual take, or release, on life.

Lastly (buried in here for a reason): but I am cis-male, genuinely attracted to females. A lot of these fantasies play on the silent or less so inter-dynamics of the male/female realities in society. I'm not a masochist, and neither do you likely feel of less worth in your life/gender/whatever. But that's a very razor edged bay area way of calling out that I truly enjoy the female mind, body, and differences between us. It's my natural state for sure. I probably can't make you believe your fantasy if it's just me and another male. BUT this whole side rant also must call out some of the above---if you are a couple (female/male), I'm open to playing with that so long it's what you both want, and neither are doing so at the expense of the other. There are a lot of mind games to play there.

Bla bla bla….my god I’m an arrogant prick. I recognize that the detail assumes a lot on my end, but that's also the point. I won't be late, I won't flake on you (simply out of respect to anyone who has shared anything important to them). So the junk above is meant for almost anyone who wants to open up, to do so, and at least let you know what is in this net I'm wanting to provide. Pick a line from somewhere in there, and reach out with it as your reason to connect. All good if not, I'm truly happy either way. This just excites me :-)

Anyway, I wonder how long this will stay up? – Mods: if it needs to come down, just let me know what I need to edit to make appropriate. Thanks.

-Matt the Rope Guy