This feels a bit like stepping out into traffic. I don't know if I'm about to get run over by a large truck, or get picked up in an expensive sports car and whisked off to somewhere wonderful. I've never put something like this out there before, so I hope the universe is gentle with me.

I'm trying other platforms, but someone also recommended Reddit to me, so here goes.

I'm a 44 year old, feminine presenting woman living in the east bay. I stand a towering 5'5", I love to spend time outdoors and do a lot of trail running (competitively). I will be fully up front and transparent that I am married to a man, but while he is aware that I'm doing this, he will not be involved in any way, shape, or form. This is only for me. This isn't a false advertisement with intent to pull him at some later point. Matter of fact, if you never want to meet him, that is ok.

I have known for many years that I'm bi. I came out to him a few years ago and it evolved to the point that we finally talked about opening our marriage so that I can explore this side of myself. We have been meeting with a therapist the last few months who specializes in ENM and this is the culmination of those efforts. I am ready for the next step to put myself out there.

What am I looking for? I'm leaving that as an open ended question. I find very feminine women attractive, but I also find butch presenting women to be attractive, and many other types in between. For me the real importance is connection. I want to feel comfortable around you, be able to laugh, feel safe, and see where it goes. Maybe we are on equal footing in terms of power dynamic, or maybe you are very dominant. What matters more is connection. Maybe this is short term or maybe it is long term. I don't know. I'm keeping my expectations open. I'll let the universe decide what is best to send to me.

It should be obvious, but please, no men. My post didn't ask for that so don't send something I didn't ask for. Also, if you have a male partner, that's totally fine, but I'm not interested in anything that involves him.