Honestly not sure where else to put this, so here goes.

I have a really big kink for “hotwife” type partner sharing. Because of that kink, I’m also really turned on by the idea of my partner doing sexwork and being a person with a fully-realized sex life outside of me as well as an object of desire for others. I was once in a brief relationship with someone who was doing sexwork and we had a lot of fun dirty-talking about what she was currently was doing and had done in the past. That included both IRL meetups and OF content creation, both of which were really hot to hear about. We broke up for unrelated reasons, but I’d really love to meet someone else who would be excited to date someone that’s excited about that part of your life.

For context, I’m poly and a little demisexual. I could see someone reading this and being either upset or turned off that I’m reducing them to their job and sexualizing them for that. I’m sure it wouldn’t be the first time, but I can also see why that might not be particularly endearing. I want to be very clear that I’d like to know you as a person and date you for who you are. I’m thinking about this post like the people who might post for, say, a “daddy dom” — I have a particular kind of kink/dynamic that I know I’d really like my relationship to incorporate, but I’m looking for more than that too. Similarly, though I’m excited about this particular type of “sharing”, I would neither expect nor desire all of the sex we have to be about who you and what you do with other people.

If you read this far, I figure you might be interested in actually knowing a bit about me. I’m 29, 6’2’’, and in shape but on the slimmer side. I was born and raised in the bay but have lived in a few different states. I’m relatively nerdy and finished gradschool earlier this year before moving back to the California. Though I certainly wouldn’t turn you down if you asked me to go dancing, I tend to be a bit more of a homebody and would almost always be happy to spend the evening putting on a little music, having a little wine (cheap or fancy) and making dinner for two — which might even include some homemade bread if I wasn’t feeling too lazy. I also really love getting outdoors, especially if that includes a beach, a not-too-difficult hike, or a little bit of rain.

So, if you’re a current or former sex-worker who would genuinely like to go on a date and would be excited to bring that part of your life into the sex we have together, I really hope you’ll reach out! :)

A note for the mods: I do not believe this post violates any rules of the sub. I am not soliciting anyone for sex-work in this post. I’m soliciting a date / relationship with someone who has experience doing sex work.