Hi there! I’m in an open marriage and I’m a Dad.

I am looking for a woman who is also in an open relationship or at least has some experience with that. I look to find someone to date and see long term in a secondary type relationship. I’m looking for emotional intimacy that feeds into physical intimacy. I’m poly in that I’m open to romantic feelings if they develop but I also am not trying to force anything. Just want someone to appreciate and feel connected to. Ideally, once we are established you enjoy texting when we can’t see each other in person and you’re available for meetups once a week-ish as schedules allow.

I’m 43, white, 6’1”, 190lbs. I workout and run regularly. I am kind of a cute nerd type in the face crossed with a surfer dude. I have jaw length ashy/brown/blonde hair (still have all of it and it’s wavy/curly and thick), blue eyes, I currently have a trimmed goatee (the beard is an experiment I would end if I had a partner with strong shaved face preferences) and I wear glasses. Personality wise I’m strong, quietly confident, laid back, sweet, and introverted.

I like nerdy stuff like board/video games and I also enjoy football (Niners!), hiking and occasionally going out to dance. I work as a lead software engineer in video games. I am a native of the Bay Area. I also enjoy weed so be friendly with it please. Generally open as well to other party/psychedelic type drugs and enjoy experimenting with the right person (combine this with dancing?).

In the bedroom I have a natural, passionate and sensual way. I enjoy being the masculine one in general but I am not formally kinky or a dom type. I have a strong carnal desire, I’m sensually very intuitive and I enjoy causing pleasure. Also, I’ve had a vasectomy.

Attributes I like in a partner are short, sweet, sensual, genuine and down to earth.

A word about my relationship; we are open but not swingers. I look to find a purposeful connection with a like mind. I am not looking for something quickly or for the short term. The goal is certainly to find amazing physical chemistry, but with someone whom I know, care for and respect.

I live in San Jose and I am quite mobile and happy to drive almost anywhere within reason.

Thank you for reading this far and I hope to hear from you!