I am a 56-year-old man who is primarily straight and very happy connecting with women. However, I have had many sexual encounters with men. I tend to go in cycles where I am either with men or women, and I don't typically see men when I am dating women. Recently, I started dating a bisexual woman who is very open sexually, and I would like to share with her my past experiences. While I am reasonably sure she would be ok with my past, anytime I have shared that with women, it has gone horribly wrong. With an ex-wife, I was led to believe I was safe sharing, and it backfired horribly. In today's society, being gay, trans, poly, etc., is accepted and, in some cases, encouraged, but being a bi-man still feels like dangerous territory. Women may like the idea of a bi-man but don't necessarily want to date one and tend to feel threatened even if there is no reason to feel that way. Gay men tend to think a bi-man just isn't able to admit they are gay. And obviously, bi-women are mostly accepted, and that turns on many guys. What does the community think about the risk of coming out bi when I look, act, and am perceived as straight?