So recently, I found out my best friend of 25 years, has been molesting his younger sister for years. We'll call him Gary. I myself was molested as a young kid about 6 years old and I've had a very tough time with that and he knows about this and the fact I absolutely fkn despise pedophiles. According to his sister, it started when she was about 4 and he was about 13 and didn't end until she was about 18. We have a very long and deep history together with way too many core memories. some of the best times I've ever had were with this guy and we've been through some pretty insane shit together. The stories are endless. A group of us all met freshman year in high school and became fast friends because we all liked to smoke pot, played instruments and loved heavy metal. It wasn't long before we had formed a band and won the school talent show. Fast forward 20 something years later and we were still jamming together and having fun. Mainly just me and my friend Gary. I have no clue what to do about this. It's been prety fkn blind siding to say the least. I haven't talked to him since it happened because it's too damn painful. I have feelings of anger, resentment, disgust and distrust for him but I also fkn miss my bro but I'm just NOT OK with what he did. The rest of our mutual friends have 100% written him off completely. I'm honestly surprised his fiancé hasn't left him and they are still getting married. Really baffled by that one as they were already on the rocks before all this came out. From what I've heard from our mutual friend Sean who called him and confronted him, Sean said he's remorseful and knows he greatly fucked up but Sean has a 4yo daughter and told him sorry but he could not be friends with him anymore. He's recently tried to reach out to me but I just couldn't. I'm torn about it because he was like a brother to me but what he did was about the worst fkn thing you could do. I feel betrayed in the worst way possible. Your supposed to protect your baby sister and if he would do that and hide it(their own father also hid this for the last ten years), what else could he be hiding? Am I right for also writing him off? What would you do if you found out your best friend was a child molester?