I’ve always been a somewhat kinky gal, but in the past 9 months or so after my assault, I engaged in sex with different men a couple of times. They were all bleh. (I am also on Feeld)

But a couple of weeks ago, I met a man and had sex with him like three days later without disclosing my SA history and it went wonderful. Here are a couple of things that made me feel better. 1. He had jazz or coffee house tunes in the background. Nothing extravagant, but really kept me focused. 2. He was kind and asked if x felt good and if I still felt okay. 3. He told me to let him know if something was painful. 4. He asked at one point, was that enough for you? Indicating the break we took.

Please if you’re reading this, know that sex after assault can be possible. Casual sex after assault can be positive.