Hi everyone,

someone I've been dating (casually, in a fwb kind of situation) for a couple of weeks is a survivor of sexual assault. I did not get the full picture yet but I know she was assaulted by her father and that the latest instance is mere weeks ago when she travelled home. She's in her mid-20s.

She frequently makes sarcastic hints at the topic (and mental health stuff, too - sarcasm is her go-to). What I'm picking up from that is some wish to bring the topic up but every time I try to open the door for that after one of the hints she kind of shrugs it off in a "oh believe me, you don't wanna know" kind of way.

I've emphasized multiple times that I can make space and sit with a lot. She doubts that and proceeds to shrug it off.

We have talked about triggers in context of our sex life.

I'm just very unsure how I should handle the situation communicatively. I do not intend to push her but the brief moments we do talk about the topic, I'm unsure whether I can ask questions because I don't know whether they will make her re-live these situations rather than actually help. In general when I talk about difficult topics with friends and partners, I generally ask a lot of questions to then empathize with the person and the situation and offer my emotional support. I'm not sure if this approach is a great idea in this case, though.

TL;DR: How do I support her without forcing a traumatizing topic too much?