So my wife is bi and I've known ever since we been together almost 11 years now. We've always brought up having a threesome with someone. She wants a woman to be the third and of course I'm ok with that. But here is where I get confused. She says she would love to be able to fuck another woman. For me I'd have fun but my wife is number 1 priority over the other female. But when we do find someone we could connect with and get along so well and trust, my wife don't want to do it. I get if you're not ready but this has happened so many times, and then she turns around and says well we just can't find anyone. I don't know what to do. Whenever she brings it up now I just say something like "yeah it would" and then I just change the subject. And before I'd bring up that she didn't want to do it she just gets defensive. I was just bringing up a point. Idk what to do so I am about to just throw in the towel on it.