I am a male 28 years old and have lost multiple relationships because of painful sex. The last relationship I was in ended approximately 18 months ago. She was 26 at the time and just a wonderful person and everything I could ever want in a woman and future wife, I still think about her a lot. I thought for sure she was the one. 9 months in we were making love and when we were finished, she started crying. When I asked her what was wrong, she said I love you, I really do but I can’t take the pain anymore from having sex with you. She then proceeded to tell me that when we have sex it hurts and it hurts for days after. I asked why are you just telling me now, she replied I thought it was me and even went to my gynecologist to get checked out and she told me that everything with me is normal outside of having some tears and that your partner may just be too big for you and suggested I use lubrication and I have tried ,but the pain is still too much and I can’t do it anymore. So after that ended I was introduced swinging and hotwifing with women much older then me, and most of them have really enjoyed it. As I have lost a few relationships with women around my age, I wonder if it is an age thing and the women’s body changes as it get older? Although the swinging and hot wife thing has been fun, I need and want more. So I am considering Reduction corporoplasty, reducing my length and girth. After meeting with Specialists they tell me it can be done but there are risk. Possible ed, loss of feeling and becoming impotent to name a few. I truly don’t know what to do.