Virgin women usually bleed the first time they have penetrative sex. Is that some kind of kink or fetish for men?

I'm a virgin (20F) and the guy I used to be with (22M) was suspiciously interested in whether I bled when I fingered myself for him. I've rubbed my pussy several times, but I haven't been able to insert my finger all the way, so maybe that's why I haven't bled.

I think my hymen is still intact, which is why I can't put my finger in all the way, and I'm also scared to insert it. I told him I'd let him finger me. He said maybe when he penetrates me, I'll bleed, and he seemed very interested in that. Does anyone have any idea why he seems so interested in seeing me bleed? Hahahaha, he probably just wants to deflower me, right?