So my boyfriend is magic. Sex was a bit hard to start because of us both being relatively inexperienced. I (20F) had been more active than him (23M) but we both had only had one previous partner. My previous experience was more laying down and taking. His experience was one time and to put it simply it wasn't a great experience. She made him feel like shit. We both were also coming out of a three-year dry spell. He also knew that I had been SA and I had some boundaries. Anyway, now that there is some back story. The first couple times we had sex I didn't end up finishing. He made sure I didn't lie about it and slowly he really figured out how to work my body. I've never been the most sensitive or responsive, so I didn't expect much, but this man has now gotten to a point where he can make me finish 2-10 times before he does. I think in part he knows I have a higher labido and it takes a little more to make me satisfied but he goes above and beyond. I like to go a couple times a day (1 climax) and if be fine but he tend to have a 24 hour recovery period. Sex isn't really about getting off for me as much as it makes me feel really close so it tends to make me feel unwanted if he isn't in the mood (though I respect it and never push the issue). I am on the curvy side and I can get a little self conscious, especially since I've put on a little more weight due to switching meds. I just enjoy being touch by him as I do not touch others. For reference, I've only hugged my best friend of two years twice. It is great and mind-blowing but I feel like I don't do the same for him. I try to do the things I know he likes and make sex good for him. As well as other activities besides penetration. He used to really love having me go down but now he seems to be not so into it as he's more determined to make me climax. I asked him if he did something to make head not as appealing but he says he just hasn't been in the mood. He said he wants to be in me more. I know it sounds like a dream and it is but I feel inadequate. I tried to tell him but he said that he is learning that he is a pleasure dom and it really gets him off. I feel like it's partially true but I also feel like he isn't being fully honest about what he wants. Going into our relationship we took the quiz where it tells you what you are and he got switch. I know this can switch more as I take a submissive role and we are both still learning about ourselves and preferences. We tried having me dominate him. It wasn't a great experience for either of us. I lean sub pretty heavily. I'm not sure if that experience has stopped him from telling what he wants or if I've just given him space to be more dominant than in past relationships. I'm not sure what to do. Should I just be grateful, should I push the discussion? Any advice or insight would be great. Thank you!