There's a ton of backstory here but the bottom line is that my husband (m/60) and I (f/49) have begun sharing our more intimate fantasies in recent months. Generally speaking I have always been a much more sexual person than he is. This is a man who never even masturbated until AFTER he'd had sex the first time at age 17! (Meanwhile I basically locked myself in my room from age 12-18!) Our sex was never exactly mind blowing - but it was fine. More importantly he is an amazing, considerate, loving, funny, talented, successful man who adores me and I adore him.

After sharing some of my kinkier aspirations with him, I asked my husband to show me some of the porn he watches so I could get a better idea of what really turns him on. While I went down on him, he played some beautifully filmed 3-ways with 2 girls and a guy. The guy is hot, the girls are lovely and natural and the action is all slow and sensual. Now I'm kind of horrified to share any more of my fantasies with him because they are WAY darker and kinkier than the stuff he gets off on. I feel like Queen Perv. I've already told him about some of my fantasies that veer into light BDSM territory. He seems willing to try some stuff but it clearly isn't his jam. I'm embarrassed and feeling disappointed that I may never get to actually explore this side of myself.

Does anyone have any advice? I would never do anything to hurt him (ya know, unless he was into that... ha!), but I'm feeling unfulfilled and kinda lonely because I want him to be able to see all of me but now I don't feel comfortable sharing it.