Ugh, so I'm super frustrated. Super frustrated that we don't do anything sexually. Yes, I have a role in it because I could try to initiate or whatever. I guess I just assume that she's not very interested. Got my vasectomy at the end of June. We had sex once since then. I was hoping she'd at least give me an occasional hand job to help clean out the pipes. But I guess she assumes that I can just masturbate for that. (The V was her idea.) We're in our early 40s and have a lot going on, so at the same time, it's not so crazy to think that we don't have sex... small kids, both working two jobs, other responsibilities and things going on... so by the end of the day, just too tired. When talking about hand jobs post-vasectomy the other day, she actually said, "Why didn't you ask?" Which always sounds funny to me because I just can't think of just saying, "Can I get a hand/blow job?"

I guess I needed to vent a little. Hopefully we can open some communication and work on this.