Wife and I have 40 plus years of marriage and seems that routine of life takes priority of timing to have sex. She still works and I am newly semi retired getting ready to start a PT gig. Issue is life’s routines dictate sexual times. It is weekend noontime or doesn’t work for my wife. At 8:30 I asked to go have sex and was told I have terrible timing. Sex before bed just doesn’t work. Sex before work doesn’t work. Sex after a shower doesn’t work. My wife is hot and I do want her but really don’t like this routine crap. My parents do this and it drives me crazy. Everything is on a schedule.

How do I get her to be less scheduled and more spontaneous?

Frustrated in Ohio