Hi all! [M]y wi[f]e and I are both early 30s, have been together for 4.5 years, and just got married over the summer. No kids yet, but planning to in the next year or two. We've had a fairly good sex life throughout, with my wife generally having a lower-libido but we communicate well and usually have sex every week or two, which we've been satisfied with.

Recently, my wife has been having a tougher time reaching orgasm during sex. In a recent conversation, it came up that she is missing the "adrenaline" kind of sex, like what you have in a new relationship. I'll admit, we lead busy lives so our sex has been more planned out, as to when and where. We both know and acknowledge that this is part of a long-term relationship, but I am wondering what others have done to bring some of that "adrenaline" fuelled novel sex back into the bedroom?

We mix it up a fair bit, have a good collection of toys including various vibrators and dildos, and have tried stuff like bondage, light bdsm (switching who tops/bottoms), pegging, and hypnosis play.

My wife can't quite identify any one thing that she thinks we can try or do differently, so I'm looking for suggestions. My current thoughts are more "extreme" BDSM, going to sex clubs to play in front of other people, trying riskier 'public' sex, but none have quite struck a chord. I'm wondering what other folks have done to bring "thrill" back into their sex life once you hit 5 year mark? Any advice or ideas would be much appreciated.