I recently learned from my wife that the primary reason she tries to keep our sex within a fairly rigid script is because she has reliable, strong clitoral orgasms, and she fears that, by deviating from the routine, she will have a weaker orgasm and/or be stuck having uncomfortable sex because her orgasm wasn't timed right. Our sex script(below), in many ways, probably sounds somewhat ideal from the outside, and I really enjoy it, but I also think experimentation and novelty are fun. For example, this script prevents her from wanting foreplay, oral sex or really any activity other than penetrative sex. I'm curious if others have similar experiences to compare and if anyone has advice for ways to switch things up while ensuring she still has a good time. You can answer generally without reading further, but for my specific situation, see below:

After a shower, she wants me to start vaginal sex immediately (position is flexible). Within a couple minutes, she wants to move to a position where I am touching her clit or she can rub it on my penis. I finger her ass while touching her clit and she cums hard from this or we switch to anal while I dp her with fingers and rub her clit until she cums. She doesn't enjoy any clit stimulation after cumming but enjoys hard penetration especially in the first few minutes and can have penetrative orgasms. I usually time my orgasm with hers but, if I don't, she can keep going. She may need to slow down for a bit, but then gets back into it and can cum again (from piv or pia). I typically cum either trying to get her to another orgasm or at the same time.

When we go off script: she feels like if I make her cum from oral, it isn't as strong and then penetrative sex isn't as enjoyable. If I just get her turned on from oral or other foreplay and then move to penetrative sex, she feels like she cums too fast and it isn't intense enough. So she actively avoids foreplay. If I go to just penetrative sex or try to minimally rub her clit so that she is on the edge, she is afraid she will accidentally cum and that will lead to a weaker clit orgasm. So, once penetration and clit rubbing start, there can't be any change-up until orgasm.

I honestly have trouble relating or trying to figure out what to do because, for me, the orgasm is only a part of what I enjoy about sex. It's like 5 to 10 seconds long. I get way more out of the good feelings that come before, and from the fun of making her feel good.

Your immediate reaction might be, "well, she doesnt want anything new, dont force it." And that's fair. But the current sex routine took years to develop and, among other parts of our sex life that have become "routine", the anal play that she now wants every time would never have been incorporated if i hadnt worked it in gradually. Insights and suggestions are appreciated.