Hi. I tried to post in /r/datingoverthirty earlier but apparently I don't meet the karma requirements. I'm a 43F. I am recently divorced and have just started dating again. I've been talking to a man (39M) and things are going well. I find him very attractive and he has indicated that he feels the same way about me. I have met him in person but we haven't yet visited each other's residences. I am planning on inviting him to my house. I am excited about the possibility of being physically intimate with another man and potentially having sex with him. I actually haven't had sex for a substantial period of time. One of the reasons my marriage to my ex broke down was that I was in a dead bedroom situation. There is something I want to ask about specifically. Assuming you are dating someone, and you are with them at your residence (or theirs) for the first time. I'm curious about what the etiquette is for initiating sex, as I haven't dated for such a long time. I assume that the person whose residence it is would be the one who initiates. That would be me in this case. I am kind of imagining us kissing and then me asking him if he would like to come upstairs with me to my bedroom. Hopefully he will know that means I'm inviting him to have sex. That's what I would like to happen.

How do you know when it's the right time to ask that? I'm not saying it needs to follow a script or anything, but I am wondering how a first sexual encounter with a new partner is typically initiated.