EDIT: thank you for all the replies! I didn’t expect this much feedback. I’m not complaining about the sex we’re having, I’m enjoying it all even if it’s an adjustment to what I’m used to. I was worried about his pleasure and what his behavior means since I haven’t experienced a guy like this before, and as I mentioned in the OP I felt some anxiety over my impact on his actions. I also didn’t mean any offense by calling him older at his young age, again was illustrating the difference in the 20-30 year olds I’d been with in the past. I am going to take the time to reply to individual comments soon, as clearly there’s a lot of advice and general knowledge about men and sex that I need to learn.

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Sleeping with a guy in his early 40s. I’m late 30s but have generally been with younger men in the past. He doesn’t get rock hard, just hard enough if that makes sense, and seems to only be able to cum once in a night. He will go forever to help me cum before he does. I appreciate the consideration but would prefer shorter, more frequent PIV sessions, especially since I’d rather cum myself from oral!

Is this something to do with age maybe? The first night we were together we had sex 3 times, he came first and third but on the second said he had issues being sensitive enough. Since then has been more one and done but he makes it a marathon to get there. I couldn’t even get him to cum from a BJ. So I wonder if ED related? Normal? I know it’s not my fault but I still worry I can’t make him hard enough or able to cum enough.