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Finding out about spouses sexual history and how to process it
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I[M] 35 and my [W]ife is 36. Weve been together 6 years now and i love her like crazy. We were having a conversation the other day and the subject of past partners came up. My wife is only the second woman ive been with and i told her that after she asked long ago. I had never really asked her because i knew if she wanted me to know shed tell me. Well..the subject came up of casual sex and she procedded to tell me a couple pretty wild stories of things shed done in the past and also said she wasnt sure of the exact amount but probably had been with over 25 guys. I was really shocked. She just kinda chuckled and we changed the subject. Im not normally one to feel jealous or get upset but if im honest im kinda struggling with it a bit. Im not mad obviously. It was before me and nothing can change that. I guess just hearing sbout some stories and finding out she has been with so many guys it just hit me in the gut. I cant really explain why. I didnt say anything to her because what do i say? I guess i just came from one end of the spectrum and she came from the other and now im in my head wondering how often they cross her mind or if i get compared in some way or how many guys she still talks to thst were past partners. Im not trying to be petty. Its all just raw. I know its my own insecurities surfacing. I guess id just live any constructive input or insight from ladies or guys in the situation and how you dealt with all that.

Tl;dr- my wife just told me about some past sexual experiences and how msny partners shes had and its caused me to struggle a bit.

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[m] I feel like this is something you should’ve asked about before you got married if it was going to cause an issue. At this point you’ve been together 6 years none of that should matter.

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