Last night I was in bed with my man and was showing him how to touch me "down there" and he was doing a FANTASTIC job (I swear this is half the reason I love him, he is soooo good at listening and following directions haha) I was very close to a big O, which usually only happens for me in partnered sex when I receive oral. I knew if he did a little sexy talk in my ear it would send me over the edge, so I asked him in my sultriest voice to talk to me. I asked him a couple naughty questions to get things going. He answered and then just...fizzled out. This has happened several times now and it's disappointing. He is so open to trying anything in bed, but this! Now to be fair...English is not his first language and I think he worries he may not have the vocabulary to say all he wants to say. I've told him before he can speak in his native language, I mean he could read me the dictionary in his own language and it would turn me on!! He sounds so hot! Last night I asked him if he felt a little shy to talk to me and he said yes and kinda nervously laughed. Then he ended up going down on me right away since he knows that usually always makes me O (and probably to avoid the awkwardness of not talking to me).

Anyway...for those who have been shy about sexy talk, what helped you? How can I gently encourage him? This is something I crave so much and while I can live without it, it sure would make me happy!! I told him it could be as simple as just complimenting the part of my body he is touching, for example.