Hey Everyone!

My wife and I are both 30 and have been married for almost 9 years. We have a really incredible and fulfilling sex life. We're both from pretty conservative backgrounds and there's been a lot of learning and growing, but we've been in a really amazing place for about two years where we both have pretty mind blowing orgasms after couple hour sessions 3-4 times per week. It's awesome. Working from home really is like, a sex life hack. I don't know what I'd do without an hourlong romp mid-day anymore lol.

We're at this sort of high point right now, and are getting an overnight sitter tonight to go to a candlelight orchestra in Seattle. I woke up this morning motivated to try to make sure that something really special sexually happens tonight. I don't know exactly what, but something outside of the norm, potentially a bit taboo or something. Outside of that, I really don't have a lot in mind.

I'm going to break down what our standard sexual encounters look like to give context for what might be cool to add to amp things up. Note; as I wrote this, I realize it's fairly erotic. Hopefully I'm not breaking the rules; just trying to explain what we do so others can speak with sufficient information to give good advice. I'll tone it down if the mods require.

• Generally on a night we know we're going to have sex (because we talk a little dirty throughout the day in person and over text), after putting the kids to bed, we'll put on things we know the other likes. For her it's usually some kind of one piece and lipstick, for me she likes my hair in this certain messy way, no shirt (I don't usually walk around shirtless).
• Usually within the hour before we start we'll each have a smallish amount of edible marijuana (legal here). We find that it just amps up the sensory experiences a bit, makes orgasms more explosive and lowers our inhibitions. It also seems to quiet the distractions and stresses of life. We probably do this... idk, 3/4 times. Never for afternoon delight of course, which for some reason is always intense enough on it's own. If you haven't tried weed and you're in a committed sexual relationship, and it's legal where you live, I highly encourage it. It really, seriously revolutionized our sexual life.
• We'll do something to connect, like have a glass of wine and talk about something that gets her in the mood, like particularly awesome sex we've had or when we were dating. Sometimes we're just talking about the kids or the day here. For her, just the connection before is what matters.
• We used to do TV or a movie, but now we tend to do music until the sex is done. We found that with TV on, often it'd just take too long for us to get going, and if it passes 10:30 or so before we're really into it, we'll have trouble summoning the energy to do it right.
• Once we start making out, I'll usually try to get in 5-10 minutes of just body appreciation on her. Combination of making out and kissing/sucking/licking her neck, ears, eventually chest, rubbing legs, stomach, ass, arms, etc. Sort of priming her up, I guess. I also like it. lol.
• When she's warm enough, she usually starts working towards my dick with her hands, and eventually she'll start going down on me. Fortunately for me, she has a bit of a blowjob fetish. This opening blowjob will usually go for awhile; 10-15 minutes or so. Usually very slow, lots of eye contact, sometimes some talking, sometimes it's dirty and sometimes we're laughing a bit. During this session, lately we've been sort of settling on how/where I want to cum and even kind of rehearsing it sort of? I'll put her into positions and tell her what seems hottest in the moment. We probably stick with the plan 60% of the time.
• When I'm pretty close, after a bit of edging, usually I'll go down on her briefly to make sure she's sufficiently wet, then go PIV for a few minutes, lots of eye contact and touching, usually forehead to forehead for this part.
• After a few minutes of PIV, then I'll really start the process of getting her off. My method is a combination of going down on her, then switching to PIV when it's too intense, back to going down on her, etc. There are lots of breaks in here where I'm rubbing her thighs, licking all around her genital area, making out, etc, depending on how her body is responding. This usually takes around 30 minutes, depending on how well I warmed her up prior, lol.
• After she's finished and I've done more body worship and more oral to extend her orgasm, usually we go PIV for awhile. I always have to be careful here not to cum because it's a really high intensity part, and sometimes I do which is great. I tend to prefer to cum in the open air though so I'm usually trying not to cum here, and often she's very intensely trying to make me cum, which is always sexy tension.
• If I survive, then she's generally extremely primal and intense and starts working on getting me off. There's often a good amount of gentle dirty talk in this part, lots of me grabbing her face, and lots of eye contact blowing.
• For the past 6 months or so we've been doing more with cumshots. She had a bit of an aversion to cum on or around her face or in her hair mostly because she associated it with being degrading, but after a few times where we tried it she's really gotten into it. I don't like, cum on her face like you'd think of in porn, but she's usually getting me off with a combination of her hands and mouth and where my cum goes is sort of an afterthought; it's usually kind of everywhere, and she's always VERY vocal when I'm close and cumming. It's great.

So with us almost always having sex at home during covid stuff, this has been our rhythm, and as you can see, it's a really great rhythm. She's just kind of at a point where she's wondering what else she might be into and what might enhance the experience, but is pretty shy. We have a massage table and use that with lots of lubes and oils sometimes, and we have lots of toys. The only one that gets regular use is one of those clit suckers that she'll sometimes use while going down on me, or I'll use on her. The hitachi gets some use too but it's so freakin huge! Like breaking out a vacuum cleaner for sex. We have a wearable that we've used once and that was kind of fun, maybe I'll see if she wants to wear it tonight.

So we're driving about an hour each way, and the event is over at 7:30pm so we have a lot of time. Kids are with friends overnight and my first meeting is at 9am tomorrow so I can stay up late.

Let's here it!! What should we doooo? Fantasy wise, she's a bit shy and reserved still, but does seem to maybe have a bit of an exhibitionist thing? She likes touching under tables, going down on me in the car, doing it in from of hotel windows etc. Never played much with that. Other than that nothing obvious comes to mind. Open to any ideas or thoughts.

Cheers all.

EDIT: Thanks everyone for all your great input, I really appreciate it. We ended up just playing the Spicer app game where you go through scenarios to see if you both would be into anything. Nothing profound came up, but the vibe was there and we had a really amazing night. The kids being gone was probably the best factor, lol, but we struck a great balance between a few drinks and some weed as well, and it just landed really nicely.