There was a post yesterday about how to make ONS and casual sex better. I shared it with my husband and it got us both thinking, what would we do in this scenario? Apparently both of us had been thinking about it all day because when we got home we kept the conversation going.

We were scheduled to meet up with some friends and their friends at a local brewery for "Hump Day drinks" and to listen to a friend's band play (our version of hump day is definitely different than theirs).

Fast-forward a few hours and we find ourselves discussing what it would be like if we were newly single and trying to navigate the sex and dating with some of our friends. There are about 20 in our group and many are partnered and there are so many at the bar we couldn't keep track of who was with us and who were just regular patrons. As I start giving the same advice I gave here yesterday - being a unicorn for a couple - a lovely women comes up and starts listening in. I notice there isn't a wedding band. I felt a little tingle. My husband gets a little closer and grabs my ass - he noticed. I backed off of my point because I didn't want to become 'that woman'.

Our friends continue on like she isn't even there and go on to say that threesomes are "detrimental to marriages", "only for the guys", "a sin", .... it went on for a while. I politely interrupt them to introduce ourselves to the women who just walked up. Turns out she is a coworker of our friend, "Jane". My husband takes this queue to very politely tell them a story of some of his "friends" (loosely based off of us) who have been very successful with threesomes and goes on to explain compersion, honesty, and addressing jealousy. Our friends wouldn't suspect us but if they did it wouldn't be a big deal. I step in and bring it back to the conversation here. The band that was there takes the stage and the guys turn and start talking among themselves. "Katy" seems very intrigued and opens up that she's now been divorced for almost a year and still has not slept with anyone since. Katy, Jane, and I talk about everything from guys Katy's met to even our favorite toys. Sex was in the air!

We end up after the bands first break sitting in a booth in a quieter section of the pub. Our friends leave after about 20 minutes to relieve their sitter. It's now just the three of us. I move over next to her to make her more comfortable. She almost immediately asks me what my take on this "compression" stuff is. I explain what "compersion" is from my view point. She asks about jealousy and marriage and just about everything sex and relationship wise. She tells me again how difficult it has been for her and how every guy just wants sex. To be fair, she's hot, very hot. I can see why guys do. She made a rule that she wouldn't sleep with a guy until their sixth date and that most guys give up after four. She had one guy that she thought was the one but he couldn't get it up.

The conversations just kept rolling and I owe it to this sub. I had all day to think about this woman's situation and here I was, actually putting it to good use!

We make a few compliments and I even compliment my husband, to which she jumped and complimented him back. She then asks if I have ever been with a woman! That tingle I felt earlier was now throbbing. Instead of answering, I ask if she has, she replied she did "stuff" in college but not since. Then she squeaks out, "I'm still curious". My jaw just about dropped. I asked my husband if he had settled the tab and asked if she'd like to come over to our place. "Yes, I'd like that", she replied. I was so giddy!!! We are swingers and the unicorns we are used to are very business like. Literally, one drink in and we are all making out feeling each other. This was way different. Special. Hot!

You know how it goes from there but suffice it to say, we had a great time. We stayed up until almost 4:00 this morning talking about sex, religion, marriage, and life. It was beautiful. Just the three of us, in our bed, naked, talking the night away.

Thanks to this sub for keeping the relevant topics on my mind. I may not always comment or post but I read it all. And I am glad I do. We now have a new friend because of it all. Whether or not we continue to have sex, we are really happy to have another perspective and person to talk with.