I [35M] haven't gone to my urologist about it yet because i don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill with my body but did anyone else hit a point around this age where ejaculation is difficult. To clarify, it's not an issue of being able to perform. That's still functioning like normal.

I might masterbate 2x a month, the Mrs. and I have fairly active libidos (hers a bit subdued because of medication but spurred by her reading), so we have a good run at each other at least twice a week with almost constant flirting and teasing as a cornerstone of the relationship.

When I was younger and went at it solo more often, I had delayed ejaculation problems with just not having enough sensory input to effectively get me where I needed. But now I'm struggling to just finish the event. Now it's difficult to resist up front, but if I push myself past that initial edge, it's nearly impossible to finish. Regardless of which route I go; instinctively or patiently, it requires force. Spine curled, muscles pulling, physical discomfort levels of force/strain. It's not something that i have to resist the whole time like it used to be.

In the past, I would get a good 30 seconds of mental warning before there was no avoiding it. Now it's a challenge to finish before fatigue throws my rhythm off, and I lose the ability.

TLDR: Anyone else have to force themselves to finish during sex? If so, do we know why? This is a newer development, and I'm not particularly a fan.